Keeping It Together – Mommy Brain

As women, we often feel that we are the glue to our children and our family. Our brains go on forever and don`t stop. Unlike our husbands, it is a lot harder for us to just “Shut it off.” Sometimes people wonder why can’t you just fall asleep at night, but it is difficult when your brain has taken over, and you can’t help but dwell over the pile of laundry, and tomorrow’s organizing of activities like time-management tetris.
Just so you know, it’s not only you! We all have those mommy moments when you can’t remember the list of things you have to do. You forget who called and exactly what they wanted. Exactly where do you have to be at 3:00 tomorrow? Who was it that called last night? Its not you, and it’s probably not going to stop. Here are some moments that other moms have had – posted from Parents Magazine

“I once spent 30 minutes frantically looking for my phone in my car. Then I realized I was using it as a flashlight.”
-Jax Lee-Sawyer

“I got to work one day and looked down to discover I’d only shaved one of my legs!”
-Jen Nelson Lane

 “I forgot it was summer vacation and woke my 4-year-old son up to get on the bus. I realized about an hour later the bus wasn’t coming.”-Danyel Mier-Sanders

 “One night my husband and I went to the store and on the way home I asked him, ‘Why are you turning here?’ He replied, ‘Because this is our street.'”-Nicole VandeBoom

 “I once waited 45 minutes for the water to boil then realized the burner wasn’t on.”-Karine Hoffman

 “I spent half an hour looking for my shoes then realized they were already on my feet.”-Melinda Baker

We all have those moments when you walk into a room, and forget what you went in there for. You are looking EVERYWHERE for you car keys, just to realize they are in your hand, or already in your car. It happens a lot more when you become a mother…. and I mean a lot more. There are the bad days, and there are the REALLY bad days. The really bad days are those days when you feel like you are holding on by a thread, things are falling apart left right and centre, and you are struggling to not fall apart.

Before I became a mother, nobody told me how organized you have to be in order to survive. I am not over exaggerating either – if you do not plan things, then all of a sudden your kids can’t find their teddy, shoes, or jacket, you booked two different appointments at the same time, you find the milk in the cupboard, and the honey in the fridge, and neither you or your husband can find your left shoes. Don’t get me wrong, regardless of planning these things happen anyway, but they can be minimized. On top of all we have to manage, we are expected to do it with a smile on our face, or at least with out loosing our minds completely. There may not really be a cure but there are ways to try and “keep it together” what ever that means!
Ways to keep it together 

When it comes to having a million things to do in a day, being in a good mood can make a world of a difference, especially on those days when you keep stubbing your toe and your child is constantly melting down over the colour of the plate you gave her, the “little specks” in her mashed potatoes, the colour of her pyjamas, and everything else it seems, Sometimes you are in desperate need of a mood booster Her Magazine has an easy fix with their Mood Make Over Kit.
Here is an Easy Mood Make Over Kit:   
  • Multi B6 Complex.
  • A quality fish oil with a 3:1 (or higher) ratio of EPA:DHA. This ratio provides optimal cognitive support. The content of EPA must also be above 1000mg.
  • EXERCISE – get all the neurotransmitters in the “brain playground”!
  • SLEEP – you may need assistance with specific strategies to address your unique sleep concerns and contributing factors.
  • GREEN FOODS – vegetable based greens! – Not green gummy bears

As I mentioned earlier, we often think that we are the glue to our families, and often feel guilty taking time to ourselves. Personally, sometimes I can’t even sleep because I’m wondering if my child is planning a mutiny against my husband as I lay in bed. Sometimes it feels so wrong to just step away for a few hours, but honey, that is exactly what you need.

Methods of Treatment:
  • several hours of uninterrupted sleep
  • several hours of quiet time, out of both visual and audio range of children, possibly with a crossword puzzle, a good book, or a crafting project
  • conversation with other adults
  • a long (or intense) run
  • a soak in the tub or long shower
  • 10pm bedtime. Period. End of story. No Real Housewives watching is worth it. Trust me!
  • Keep checklists – I have never been a check list type of person, but now I rely on them, and so does my husband.
  • Write things down – write down who called and what they want, you always end up needing to look at it.
  • Repeat what you want to know

Keep Your Mind Active:

  • You see a pen and paper lying there? Doodle!
  • Listen to podcasts or audio books while you exercise or clean.
  • Keep books in the car, by the bathtub and by your bed. – We may not have much time but even a few minutes of reading is beneficial
  • Take time out each week or month to have a conversation about something that is really exciting to you.
  • Stay curious and involved — commit to lifelong learning
  • incorporate movement and activity into your normal daily routine – dancing while you clean also boosts your mood, trust me
  • golf, bushwalking or playing in the park
  • Play card games and board games with your children but make sure to take time to do it with adults as well.

Extra Tip:

Get Schooled: Going back to school as a mom doesn’t mean you have to be a full-time student. There are hundreds of courses offered that aren’t too expensive. I am taking a college course right now, and it has honestly done WONDERS for my brain.

– Kelsey xox

When you don’t like your kid

If you don’t have kids, think of it this way – Have you ever babysat for somebody, and their kid was just terrible? You try your best to get through the day, while they run around like little tornadoes, with no care in the world. It seems like the purpose of their existence is to ruin as many things as possible. They are flushing things down the toilet, drawing on the walls, constantly getting into the fridge, dumping toys everywhere, playing in the sink, screaming at the dog, and just being a plain old pain in the butt. (All within 10 minutes)

The moment when their parent comes to pick them up is the most sweet release you think you have felt for months, sure you have a pile of things to clean up.. but oh that sweet silence. There is nothing quite as satisfying as the calm after the storm. After cleaning up, you slip on your bunny slippers, make some popcorn, and turn on your favorite TV show, all of which seems much more relaxing after the day you have had.

That is the story of my life, but you know that you can never send them home. Lets be honest here, nobody would admit it, but there are times when you really don’t like your child. Your adorable little angel has turned into a food throwing, name calling monster, and you think to yourself “Did I really make this thing?” You wonder where you have gone wrong, and you see the next 20 years of your life flash before your very eyes.

Right as you think you are in the pit of never ending darkness, what is that you hear? Silence… All of a sudden the storm stands still and you can breathe for a moment. Then you realize that silence, although wonderful, is usually a very bad sign. Mischief is very silent. You walk past the bathroom, the light is on, you hold your breathe and open the door…. YUP… there is now a mini lake on your bathroom floor. “What are you doing?” you ask… “Oh I’m just making soup” your child replies…. You look around to see a soaked roll of toilet paper, shampoo, bubble bath, and what ever that brown stuff used to be, all mixed together in your bathroom sink. It takes a lot of effort to compose yourself. To your child’s dismay you are not as happy with their gift of fresh soup as they originally thought. The bathroom you just spent 2 hours cleaning and disinfecting is now a war zone.